What kind of communication do you need in a relationship? Good communication! Let’s face it; relationships thrive on good communication. So I guess that means we need to look at what constitutes good communication.
Good communication is when both partners know what is in the other’s mind, and they know the intent behind words and actions so there is little misunderstanding. This is achieved through talking to each other! Good communication helps a relationship to proceed smoothly. For example, if a partner is lethargic and keeping quiet, that also communicates something. Good communication is understanding underlying meanings, and hidden signs that help to determine what is really meant when words are spoken. Even if you do not intend to, you usually have more meaning than is surface deep, so that has to be understood by the other partner. Once both the partners understand this and perceive the same meaning of what is being said, they can develop a very healthy relationship.
People want to be understood, and it is when we are not understood that problems occur in our relationships due to miscommunication. It is possible to have a good relationship despite poor communication, but only for a while. So, if your relationship is facing poor communication there are a few things you need to do before it starts to break down the relationship:
1.Do not assume meaning. If the intent is not completely clear say, “I am not getting what you’re trying to say. I am sorry, but please explain.”
2.Be sincere in any request for clarification. You have to be careful not to sound mocking. You must show that you really want to understand.
3.Be clear yourself, explain intent, motive, and think through words and actions carefully so that you do not pass along the wrong message at any time.
4.When you are misunderstood, or do the misunderstanding, it is important that you talk it out, work out the true intents and clear up the misunderstanding; do not hope it will go away on its own.
5.Start to try and better understand what motivates and drives your partner as this will help you to better communicate with them, and understand when they communicate with you.
In a relationship you need open lines of communication where you are not afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. This means you need a judgmentfree environment where you can trust your partner not to criticize or judge you because of your feelings. You instead can feel comfortable expressing yourself, and sharing your goals, dreams, concerns, frustrations etc. It is important to have these things, and this is what makes good communication. So, work to have this in your relationship and it will be stronger, healthier, and more enjoyable for both parties.