Attachment parenting is a parenting type that involves a really hands on approach to parenting, where the parents are extremely involved in order to attach the child. They may sleep with the child, and hold them a lot, etc. the idea is that the child forms a strong emotional bond with caregivers during childhood. This leads to lifelong consequences. Of course, as with any other kind of parenting, this type has a great deal of criticism. Here are a few of the biggest complaints:
The first criticism of attachment parenting is that it is really hard on the parents, and thus not realistic for a parenting approach, as eventually parents will not be able to sustain it. The idea is that parents should do everything themselves, be total parents, so that the child relies entirely on them. Of course, the result is that the parent does not have a support network, which can really negatively impact them. Without help, a parent can be overwhelmed, and find everything difficult. It is important to realize that this may be unrealistic, and too intense for most mothers to do effectively.
The next criticism is that it is demeaning to women. The idea behind this parenting is that it is a mother’s job to raise the children, and puts the majority of the job on the mother’s shoulders. So much for equality.
Attachment parenting starts pre-birth.
Next, is that the parenting type is not supported by a conclusive amount of research. In other words it is a theory, and nothing more. There is no research to show that this controversial, labor-intensive approach is in any way better than any other mainstream type of parenting.
Next, it is important to note that one of the biggest criticisms of this parenting style is that it requires co-sleeping. This means that the parent is to sleep with the child. For a time the American Academy of Pediatrics said that co-sleeping is not good for SIDS prevention. Room sharing is good, as it will alert a parent to any problems, whereas co-sleeping can actually cause problems.
Attachment parenting does come with some good things, and can be a great way to raise a child, as long as it is not taken too far to the extreme. There are a number of criticisms, and critics can raise some valid points. Knowing what you are getting into, and why certain points are criticized can help you to choose an approach that works for you.
The following are the eight parts of attachment parenting, understanding them helps you to know the truth and exaggerations of attachment parenting criticism.
- First is the preparation for pregnancy, birth and parenting.
- Second is to feed with love and respect.
- Third, respond with sensitivity.
- Fourth, use a nurturing touch
- Fifth, ensure safe sleep, physically and emotionally through co-sleeping
- Sixth, provide consistent loving care (by leaving the care to the mother).
- Seventh, practice positive discipline.
- Eighth, strive for balance in personal and family life.