Some of my favorite people in all the world are teachers. My teachers taught me more about life than just about any other people. They provided me with the basic knowledge and skills I needed in life. They have also helped me to become a good person by providing examples of strength and caring. Without those teachers’ lessons and examples I know that I would not be the person I am today.
However, over all those years of schooling, I also found that there were some teachers that were better left alone. Some teachers, who just didn’t seem to have a sense of humor, did not like me. I never thought of myself as the class clown, but I nevertheless seem to have offended certain teachers. My children now have the occasional problem with a teacher that has to be resolved. I have learned how to resolve teacher trouble over the years, both from the example of my parents and from being a parent myself. Student and teacher relationships are a tricky business but almost any problem can be resolved with little difficulty.
If you are looking for some good tips to resolve teacher trouble consider the following suggestions:
1. Ask the teacher for a conference. If your child is having teacher trouble, call the teacher and ask for a meeting. Meet with your child present. Discuss the problem without condemning the teacher. As most teachers are overworked and very much underpaid, you will need to approach them carefully. Coming to them in anger rarely does anything good.
2. Do something nice for the teacher. As mentioned before, teachers are generally exhausted and rarely thanked. If you have a bad relationship with one of your children’s teachers it may be because you made their already difficult day more difficult. Simply giving a little gift to show your appreciation will go a long way.
3. Ask yourself if you are the problem or if the teacher is the problem. In many cases, you will find that you are doing something to anger the teacher. You might try to alter your own behavior before you make a big stink about anything.
4. Try to help the teacher in anyway that you can. Teachers have difficult lives and if you help them in even some small way you will find that they will help you in return. Although this might sound like bribery or favoritism, a small gift, given only once, can help you to start your relationship on new footing. In many cases a poor relationship with a teacher occurs because of some event. It doesn’t take much for some teachers to decide that yours is a problem student.
5. Have a conference with the principal of the school, if necessary. It is important that you do not go behind the back of the teacher to do this. Have a lengthy, sit down conference with both the teacher and the principal. Make your concerns clear without making accusations against the teacher. The keys are to keep anger out of the situation and avoid a severe argument. Arguing will likely only further damage the teacher- student relationship. Imagine having to sit in a classroom all day with a teacher with whom you have had a ferocious argument.
Following these tips you should be able to resolve just about any teacher trouble you have. Sometimes you will get a teacher who is simply having a difficult year. In this case, you may simply have to compassionately wait and help the teacher as best you can.